One of the essential traits of a true & effective healer, the ability to respect your right to decide when you're ready to speak your truth or share your story with others.
QUESTION: Have you ever worked with someone in a healing capacity where you felt like you were “behind in class” or not “turning in your homework in a timely fashion”? Do you do this to yourself? Love to hear your experiences in the comments!
The first example I think of is the one I wrote of in this post where I was so severely traumatized, by the way my "practitioner" directly impacted my memory with her rush "save" me from denial.
Because I stayed clear from working directly with a therapist or practitioner of any sort for much of my journey as a result of that, I can't think of any other instance right now. Except that I've witnessed those dynamics of being pressured to share in some larger forums, peer led online support groups, by moderators and administrators who invested too much of their ideas of what healing *should* look like into the space, and placed a lot of expectations on their members, including expecting to them divulge their personal traumas... or in a more recent case, forbidding it.
Yeah... that was just this past week, Facebook recommended a support group, and in their description they made it clear you were not allowed to talk about what happened to you, except maybe a short initial paragraph, and then after that, only the positive parts of healing .
How do you do that?
That's another form of control, isn't it? Now I'm intrigued, but I don't know if I can find that group again.
Bottom line, listen to yourself, share what you will share, or don't share. It's up to you. Any pressure in one direction or the other is a form of control. Not the best for your healing.
QUESTION: Have you ever worked with someone in a healing capacity where you felt like you were “behind in class” or not “turning in your homework in a timely fashion”? Do you do this to yourself? Love to hear your experiences in the comments!
The first example I think of is the one I wrote of in this post where I was so severely traumatized, by the way my "practitioner" directly impacted my memory with her rush "save" me from denial.
Because I stayed clear from working directly with a therapist or practitioner of any sort for much of my journey as a result of that, I can't think of any other instance right now. Except that I've witnessed those dynamics of being pressured to share in some larger forums, peer led online support groups, by moderators and administrators who invested too much of their ideas of what healing *should* look like into the space, and placed a lot of expectations on their members, including expecting to them divulge their personal traumas... or in a more recent case, forbidding it.
Yeah... that was just this past week, Facebook recommended a support group, and in their description they made it clear you were not allowed to talk about what happened to you, except maybe a short initial paragraph, and then after that, only the positive parts of healing .
How do you do that?
That's another form of control, isn't it? Now I'm intrigued, but I don't know if I can find that group again.
Bottom line, listen to yourself, share what you will share, or don't share. It's up to you. Any pressure in one direction or the other is a form of control. Not the best for your healing.